Wisconsin Show Home

You have heard of the Kips Bay Show House but what about Eau Claire, Wisconsin?? That’s right, yours truly has been working with Eau Claire builder Glen and Allison Mills of MyNextHome on a really neat, REALISTIC and special show house!

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This is a more realistic but no less beautiful show home. Less than 4k square feet but with lots of craftsmen details and beauty!

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Barn Lights from Barn Light Electric, custom doors but with functional vinyl siding and black windows for a bit of fresh modern country charm!

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White white white paint everywhere or small variations but the warmth from stone and wood floors and beams keep it from being color..laying in rugs and drapes and upholstery will also add those final layers of warmth to this clean background canvas.

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Wood floors, shiplap shiplap

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Charm charm charm!

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I was up there in November and IT WAS ALREADY SOOO COLD! But such an amazing trip!

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Glen and Allison and their craftsmen are just so cool and talented and into what they do…providing homes for families….and this home is special because it showcases what their company does, but will also be a “town house” for their family.  You see Allison, is a true blue Midwestern farmgirl….Y’all she feels it in her bones…it’s such a neat thing and they have been living on her family farm. But it is a ways from town and being the good mama and wife she is she told me “this farm has been my dream and my family has endulged me but we need a place in town that isn’t freezing all winter” among other things so they are finally building a town house! What is wonderful, is Allison is getting to keep the farm but they will have a warm place to land full time. Did y’all know how cold an OLD Wisconsin farmhouse can be in the dead of winter?  Mind blowing.

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Glen said “when your kids come downstairs in ski suits and they are still cold it’s just time to do something”… But I must tell y’all the afternoon I spent in Allison’s farm kitchen talking about family and design and her life and home was one of the best days of my life.  Seriously.  I could go on and on but Allison is such a neat person. (love you too Glen;;)

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She looks like a cross between Andie MacDowell and Amy Grant and talks like them too!

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Look at all of these sweet animals!!! I had little girl kitty crazy time with these kitties..love me some kitties.

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And this farmhouse…

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Can you even believe this barn? Yes it was a dairy. I have such a thing for barns.  Is there anything more American? It’s like a quilt… just makes me want to cry thinking about these old barns

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and the grainery. Wow.  That color.

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My phone pics just don’t do it justice. But I have better photos coming soon. I will be traveling back up there in June to help tweak and prepare for the opening of the “town house”…they are finishing up…just a few weeks left! Staining floors and putting up shiplap…don’t you love the black windows?

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When Allison first contacted me this was her inspiration

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{Please help me with a source on this image..it’s on tip of my tongue..idea house from CL or SL? What year?}

And she has run with it and it has been such a pleasure to assist along the way…we have morning coffee chats and “I am driving to Houston” calls on speaker fun and it has been pure joy!

I am going to blog more soon about the history of the farm and Allison’s story.   As well as progress pics on the construction.

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The My Next Home website  launches June 1… in the meantime you can follow them on Facebook here and follow Allison on Instagram @wiscogirl71God didn’t give me a sister, but He gave me some great sister-in-laws, friends and clients!  And y’all know this has been “a tough season” but this job and client is just another example of God’s provision and blessing…both in work and also in friendship and community.  Y’all God is big, really big.  Life isn’t easy but He is near and He cares. About beauty and home and family and mostly about us. His sons and daughters.

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Nana’s new digs

My mom is in full blown house mode.  Her favorite place to be I think;  My mom was a real estate broker for overy 30 years and she and my dad were flippin houses before “flippin houses was cool” . . .And as I have said before my grandmother was a decorator and my mom’s grandpa was a home builder.  So this house fever stuff, it is in our blood!

And Nana has a new project y’all!

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(First things first, flag and chairs on porch, next up painting doors and cleaning up yard..I want her to keep the haint blue porch ceiling!)

Her new little home to be is less than 1,000 square feet (though she has noted the county has it on tax rolls for a bit more, they must be at least 40 sq feet off y’all);;…four big rooms with a tiny bath and laundry room.  On one of  her favorite streets in our new little town and has tons of potential.  We think it was built in the 1920s.   The same lady lived here for years and kept it in great shape and it seems her children really took care of it and made lots of updates along the way…great roof, insulation, new wiring.  Music to our ears. Nana might not be as into pink as the previous owner but it is sweet to find an entire house painted pink..how cute huh?!

And GREEN ceiling..yes!

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Along the way someone added drop commercial ceiling.  Nana already has that stuff down….she may or may not have removed some herself!

The laundry room is so cute with all of the windows and shiplap ceiling, the day they tore it down she was going to keep it as is…green and all…but as is often the case there are some areas that aren’t in great shape..so we will see what she does!

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She has been in the “getting bid” phase and its enough to make even my head spin! I will say she is a lot nicer to crews and craftsmen than my grandmother was….Joan was more into war department type tactics to keep her work on schedule. My mom is a little more “you catch more flies with honey than vinegar” but beware she will turn Joan on you if needed.  It’s time to “get er done” y’all.

Tear out has begun on this sweet little house she scored.

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She may or may not go to BOTH Lowe’s and Home Depot every day! Nice wood floors under that carpet…woohoo…and the paneling could be torn back to the shiplap or she may just paint it, the issue is the drop down ceiling and the various stop and start points on the ceiling if that makes sense.  I see why sometimes people just sheetrock to cover a layer or remodeling remnants.

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I love that my mom can see a diamond in the rough and imagine the possibilities! (lol that look on her face..she is a “lawdy that ceiling what I gonna do…let me go make a list of the possibilities!;;) Not all people can look beyond pink walls and drop down commercial ceiling to see charm and cuteness.

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But she is smart and she realized it had good roof, updated plumbling and wiring and AC….pink walls are easy to fix! And it has some cute little details like old cabinets and built in ironing board and trim around windows…good trim!

And I admire my mom because she is much more frugal than me…. I am all “buy the SMEG fridge, why not!?”

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The little bath has been torn out…i think she is trying to decide about claw foot tub or not..and of course will reuse the cute cute little cabinet with latch..love that detail!  This bathroom is screaming for hex tile and pedestal sink!!

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After school shenanigans, Henry is following in the family tradition of “working on stuff”…looks like he is “programming” the AC for her..not! Drew is doing the first born thing…reading like the good citizen he is!;

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All in all, I know she is not thrilled with the pace things are going but no doubt she will have this whipped into shape soon!

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I can’t wait to see how it turns out Nana, in the meantime we are really enjoying having her with us.  I really mean that (most of the time except when she moves my stuff around but she is a laundry maven so how I can stay frustrated long right?!) . . . my boys are rowdy but she loves them and puts up with them and ME. I know we can’t live together forever y’all but DANG it sure is nice to have your mama in the next room when you are sad late at night or a storm rolls into town and all of your new fire alarms start screeching. God has wisdom (of course duh) in having her with us during this transition. One more thing to be grateful for in what is becoming known now as “the tough season.”;

Oh and it’s MOTHER’S DAY so happy mother’s day nana…we love you more than ‘a cheap bid on fast reno work!’  Truly!

Birthdays, besties & Bigmama

I have needed to write this post for over a month but just hard to put into words. Its actually been nearly six weeks since I celebrated my birthday (as my mom pointed out while I have been writing thank you notes this weekend..hey I may be getting a divorce but I still write thank you notes..what better time actually!)

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I don’t want to gush and glorify divorce or myself and my friends or my party and make it all look perfect.  But God showed up at my birthday party just like he has shown up for me throughout this hard season.  So I do want to glorify him.  For the way He loves me directly and the way He loves me through my friends. Some of my friends are super busy, just like I am and I don’t want to go down that glorification of busy road but it’s true.  They have small kids and businesses, Maifest and Round Top prep was in full swing, and we don’t all live in the same town.  But on March 15th, they made time and come out and supported me.  And I didn’t know I was going to go around the circle and bawl and tell what each person meant to me but I did and I was a little nervous the next day about what I actually said, because I was drunk on love.  And I wish I had a recording of what some of them said.  Giving words and time are powerful y’all.

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{That’s right I threw my own party yes I did}

So there you go…I sent this invite out so I couldn’t cancel the little event…and I did want to cancel as it got closer to the day. Just seems a weird time to have a party but I didn’t want to be gloomy and sad on my 40th birthday so I took the plunge, sent the invites.  And if you are my friend and didn’t get an invite its because I thought you were too busy or too far or it’s been too long.  But know I thought about  you because I did.  My fear or insecurity held me back or lack of convenience (you live too far away) is all that kept me from inviting you. Believe that.

So Holly Kuhn is a client that has become a friend and she owns the Old Glory Antiques shop in Colorado and Burton, Texas.  You may remember her home was in Country Living in the fall. I posted about it here. Holly allowed a few of my friends and I that don’t live local (and some that do) to bunk there on birthday weekend. Her Burton house isn’t a functioning B&B, it was at one point for now it’s not, so I really appreciate you opening it for us Holly.  Truly you and Brian are the best!

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So Camille came early from Abilene and we spent the Saturday before my birthday just hanging out and getting provisions for the OG (wine and chocolate and chicken salad) and I thought it was good to be with just her that day before and rehash all that is going on and get all of my tears out. Because who wants to “ugly cry” at their birthday party, but it didn’t work.  I still ugly cried at the party..and its Okay.

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{Before we put scissors to my bangs}

So Sunday morning we went to church and ate cake pops for breakfast and had a slow day as guests trickled in..like Becki and Jenny and my mama. And then Camille cut my bangs, important girl stuff like that…It was so fun to see my longtime friend hit it off with my newer friends and my mama just soak it all up.  But I am not surprised at all that they bonded instantly.

I love these faces below. I wish I had a photo of everyone that came so glad we at least got these in the entryway of Old Glory.

{Me after we put scissors to my bangs, proof that a little snip can be as good as highlights}

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{Becki is so good at the selfie, and Jenny you drove from Shreveport and didn’t even go see your parents, that is love}

And then that evening we gathered at Royer’s Pie Haven because well it’s magical there…both the pies and atmosphere. Tara lit candles and had it even more special than usual.  I knew it would be the perfect place to just hang out and be with people I love and it was.  Of course I didn’t talk to each person as much as I wanted or get very many photos.  But that is okay.  It is etched in my mind and on my heart that I am loved. And friends matter. And I need to pour into my friendships more, water more. Do more than text. But also be grateful for the people you can text or email months between visits and it still be the same.  That is grace and real friendship.  To be able to pick up anywhere.

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So thank you Tara for opening your haven to me and for being a wonderful friend. And to everyone else both old friends and new that took time out of their lives and schedule to be with me.  It meant more than you know. I so so so wish we had gotten more pictures of the evening but I guess if its such a sweet time you forget photos that is a good thing.

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That being said, I just wish Bigmama’s book had released a little bit earlier so I could have given each person a copy.

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Just like Oprah!

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Because so much of what Melanie says in this book rings true for what my friends mean to me…really all of it! And its good to say it and remember it.

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There is no one cuter than you my friends.

No one more loyal, more wise, more creative, more kind. MORE FUNNY

Larry Hagman knows its true.

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Arnold knows it.  Even Mary & Edith agree;

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Lol. I love these popping up on social media Melanie and I love your words.

That’s all I got y’all. Water your faith. Water your marriage and family.  But water your friends too. They matter.

And thank you again to my friends for the gifts and words and love and tears and miles traveled. I love you.

Outdoor furniture faves

Well the children and I have moved out of the “new old house” and it has been exhausting but good. Thank you for your prayers and support. Please keep lifting up my boys, especially my oldest.  Change is hard for a first born! But for now let’s talk something fun!

Our new home has a HUGE deck that is uncovered and a large front porch so like many of you do this time of year, I have been scouring the Outdoor furniture tab on many online sites comparing and contrasting the offerings.  And they are vast aren’t they?  And often expensive.  These are some of my faves!  Even the budget alternatives can really add up when you need 6-8 chairs etc but look what I found at Overstock and World Market!

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I just love the woven french bistro chairs.  I have sourced them to several wholesalers and craftsmen and the wholesale resources on these chairs will blow your mind with the choices and color offerings, and price.  They are not cheap but if you want the real deal look at TK Collections and others.  Or Serena and Lily has a great option in this look…but my budget is more overstock at the moment and these gray and red ones pictured above are Safaviah on overstock or wayfair.  I have heard people say they are finding these chairs at TJMAXX and Marshalls too…its a hot trend but a french classic. I love the bistro chairs paired with the red picnic table from World Market…it has matching benches and folds down for storage…no assembly either! holla! (yep i just said holla)..I have white adirondacks I need to sand and repaint. Nothing more outdoor classic and American than an adirondack chair..love them in mass and in all colors. And I am loving my favorite Les Indiennes print (elise) with this look though they are not outdoor pillows, I do have some that have been “loved a lot” that might work outside some or some cushions out of Ikea’s gray buffalo check.  Speaking of IKEA, this ad cracks me up.  Maybe its just my current situation but this ad makes me laugh.

Why yes IKEA, life is about impromptu gatherings where I just happen to have made scalloped table runners out of your black buffalo check and cut strips of fabric into a canopy! What is funny is I do have a scalloped white pleather tablecloth for an IKEA docksta table that Laura at LS Slips made for me..but it wasn’t impromptu lol!

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Kidding aside I do love that Sundero table shown above..its so cute with the little benches and the ENTIRE SET all together of course, which adds up to over $700..the chairs have a cute adirondack craftsmen look. And the grayish tone is nice. I just want IKEA outdoor furniture to be less than $700 you know.  But that is a lot of pieces for the price.

More loves from World Market, IKEA and Stars Over Texas!

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I also like the Sundero coupled with the gray outdoor wicker chair from World Market.  The little bistro set above from IKEA is VERY affordable and cute! Just a classic bistro look.  Coupled with a flag holder from Jimmy Don and you are ready for impromptu gatherings;;  Seriously, the pipe and wood outdoor table and bench top left (the KAIRI table) above is from World Market is very reasonable for what you get ..and they will have an outdoor sale soon I think if they don’t run out;;

A few more IKEA faves that would also work indoors.  These top chairs are so chic! And the white wicker below is much cuter in person.  The red bistro table needs no comment its just cute cute cute.

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So there you go?  Where have you found some good outdoor pieces? Have you used any of the above and have any reviews on how they have held up?  Enjoy this gorgeous spring weather and “impromptu gatherings!”;;

Oh and IKEA and World Market did not sponsor this post;

Round Top Antique ShowWeekend Events

Well it is time to go!  Many of you have been there for days already…tell me what you are seeing? Anything NEW (meaning original, creative, different?) what are your favorites??  You can read some of my previous posts about Texas Antiques Week (or simply “Round Top” as it is called locally) here and here.

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The Round Top  Chamber and Newspaper also have some good sources including maps and show dates….Remember Marburger and other specific shows like Red Barn, where my friend Melisse sets up each year, don’t start until next week!

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This Friday is a fun party at Old Glory Antiques in Burton. If you come and see us I may even show you around the OG Texas house, the one that was recently in Country Living, it is right next to the shop!  It will be a fun night!

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Burton has really rolled out the carpet to welcome guests this show….I know you are tired and dusty or antsy and excited coming through Burton but stop at some point, its such a good town and worth it! Old Glory is open until April 4 from 12-7!

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And then Saturday night is the annual Jazz Fest at nearby Leftovers Antiques, I hope to make that event too, always fun…refreshments, music AND 20% off!

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Have fun, drive safe, don’t get a ticket and please say hello if I see you out in the tents and fields or at these events…I would love to hug your neck!

Jimmy Don is on HGTV!!!!

Did y’all know I have a brother?  His name is Jimmy Don Holmes.  He lives in Crawford, Texas, home of Bush Ranch and long time home of many many Holmes.  (tongue twister huh) My brother and I are kind of night and day. He likes to shock, I like to please.  He was a wild child, I was (for the most part) well behaved.  And He is country and proud of it. And I am snooty he would say;; (except he would say it in a VERY colorful way;;) lol! (But I’m not snotty I am pretty darn country too as those of y’all who have heard me talk know;)  But no matter how much teasing he has given me over the years,  I am proud of him.  He is a hard worker and is finally getting some recognition on FIXER UPPER.  That’s right, Jimmy Don is on HGTV’s Fixer Upper. I am not even going to link to this show’s site, because Magnolia and this show are a sensation y’all.  Total sensation!

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And no I haven’t met Chip and Joanna but he sure has and their success has been a blessing to many in the Waco Community including him and I am so happy for them all!  Waco is a special place that has always gotten overlooked over the years.  Its smack down between Dallas and Austin.  Then you add in some Davidians and you get a bad rep. Our Grandpa Grusendorf grew up in old East Waco and we loved to hear him tell stories of what it was like back then riding his bike all over town delivering newspapers or during the crazy tornado that hit in the early 1950s. I love me some Waco, Texas.

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And I have so many clients that LOVE this show and mention it often….When I say “oh yeah my brother has been on that show” and they are starstruck and I love it! They are like “OMG shut up REALLY he is your brother?” It’s hilarious!

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Jimmy Don, the people love you!  Even though you cray Bubba!

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Kudos to Chip and Joanna for appreciating local talent and being so good to Waco.  Here are JDH and Joanna making some metal magic.

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Jimmy Don has been making metal art for years.  For the Texas Rangers, Texas Monthly, people far and wide both custom and in stores.  His badges and flag holders are really popular.  So now in addition to his own design he is also making signs for the Gaines’  show and online shop like this below…which he can also do custom.

Just look at that JDH sign all hanging up on that shiplap wall!

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I love this Good Eats sign too!

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This Texas badge is a Stars Over Texas original!

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So proud of you Bubba, keep up the hard work but don’t work too hard . . . you deserve a vacation soon!

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Here he is loaded up with a load of metal to take to Magnolia…see his sticker “doin’ bidnis” … that is Jimmy Don! All work all the time! Don’t work too hard Bubba, you need a vacation!

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You can shop JDH signs here at the Magnolia website, or go by and see him in Crawford if you want something custom. And you can reach him by email at jimmydon@starsovertexas.com. Or visit his website

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Stay tuned here, who knows maybe we will collaborate on some monograms or a kitchen sign one day…I am feeling it~! What would you like to see Jimmy Don and I create???

Birmingham Bathroom Beauty

Oh my this brightened my weekend. (And by the way thank you for all of the love and support to our family on last week’s post.  no words. just no words.  thank you)

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Ok so DESIGN.  DECORATING. That is what I do here;  As many of you know I offer different levels of help and service.  Some online, some in person, some more full service, most just consulting. I see a project once or twice and make suggestions and you run with it.  That works for me with my boys the ages they are and it fits the budgets of many of my clients.  Of course there are exceptions but this particular client had me at “little old cottage in Birmingham.” I love that city and we immediately hit it off and went fast.  She did a mini which is like $295 for three questions via email (maybe its gone up ask leslie at clients at hollymathisinteriors.com) but its specific  and very focused.  This girl took that little mini consult and did this.

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I dare she may not have needed Holly Mathis Interiors but I am glad to be a part.  It was originally a 3 bedroom and 1 bath house and the homeowners figured out how to make it a two bath with parts from the master suite and mudroom. The house was originally built in the 1930s.  Love that. This style fits that age house so well…most already have it!

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So how did this work? We emailed a few times and exchanged ideas and some pinterest pics of tile floors and patterns to attempt… She showed what she already had in mind and I think my affirmation and slight direction allowed her to spread her wings and make bathroom BEAUTY!

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The chandelier and original rock wall add so much character.  I love how each surface is different: hex tile, marble, subway, brick and I think some sheetrock. Nothing says “old house evolution” like mixing materials this way and Nikki and her husband and tile guy and cabinet guy did AMAZING work!  Those Kingston brass fixtures make me want to cry!

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Door from the nursery that they moved to bathroom….um yeah we are probably thinking the same thing… Bamboo shaded (privacy lined) stat!

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More sources:
The tile floor was a custom design from pictures we discussed. Tile came from Dal Tile in Birmingham. (White subway, black and white hex and gray grout)
The plumbing fixtures are the living brass from Newport Brass via Ferguson Showroom in Birmingham. The cast iron tub and sink were also through Ferguson.
Cabinet maker, Tim Pollard at Alabama Cabinets who made the bathroom vanity.
Wall color is Moderate White from Sherwin Williams.
The vanity sconces came from Mayer Electric.
The chandelier over the tub is something a dear friend gave the homeowner. The brass knobs on the bathroom were also from that same friend’s garage. :)
The door leading into the bath was the original front door to the home that had been in our storage!
The brick wall behind the tub and shower is the original exterior wall left exposed.
Thank you Birmingham mini client for sharing your beautiful bath!

A really hard post

I once wrote a post here about our miscarriage.  That was hard.  I think this is harder.  I don’t want to over-dramatize or over-spiritualize, the world has enough of that.  But I do want to be honest.  Authentic my friend Whitney calls it.

I started this blog as a young mom over ten years ago and it grew into a business.  I was thirty and had a new baby (finally) and was excited about homemaking and our growing family. My passion for decorating flourished.  My husband was very supportive. Our home was my lab. Over the years I have blogged about our family and home and later my clients and work as my business has grown.  I have tried to keep Christ at the center all of all I do and acknowledge the holy beauty in design and in building a home.  Truly building a home not just literally. Like it says in Proverbs you know, about a wise woman building not tearing down. So this is hard.

      A wise woman builds a house strong and doesn’t tear it down with her own hands ~Proverbs 14

To me a home is a nest for a family. A harbor.  A place to live out your story.  That is what is important.  The setting is just the background. Forgive me Lord (and y’all) if I have ever made stuff or decorating the home more important than the people that live in the walls.  Never my goal. My belief is a family and preservation of the family is the most important part of the home, more than wallpaper or paint, more than even fabric and slipcovers (bad joke).  THE FAMILY IS THE HOME.

So, it is with a heavy heart I tell you that my family is going through a hard transition, a divorce. (deep breath)

Just typing that word is hard, but not as hard as hearing it come out of my 5 year old’s sweet little mouth. I never thought this would happen to us even though my parents and grandparents are divorced.  I thought my husband and I weren’t perfect but were doing things different, better.  That at the core we were solid and could prevail any storm. Turns out I was wrong.  I don’t think it is wise to share details because of my children and just because of the intimate nature of this entire process.  You understand. Many of you know how grueling, how totally paralyzing and grief-filled this can be BUT I want to say a few things:

  • I know God hates divorce
  • I know children are scarred and hurt by divorce no matter how amicable or how loving parents can be, this saddens me and no doubt God to no end.  I hate that we are hurting them.
  • I know there are women in worse situations
  • I know we should do counseling
  • I know God is still God and He hasn’t abandoned me or my children or my husband
  • I know this world is broken and full of free will which causes bad decisions and pain
  • This is not my choice or decision
  • I don’t know everything

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I don’t totally understand why or even see how this will work or play out but its happening and I wanted to be honest. I am obviously not perfect, I don’t think I have ever portrayed that but I have shown our pretty new house and smiling photos of my family, a cute curtains, on and on over the years.  Those were real and true.  But so is this separation and I need to just tell you. My readers.  People say “you know have no obligation, that is private” and they are right in a sense but many of you have come here to read about home and design for TEN YEARS, I think you deserve to know.

  MY HOME IS HURTING, this is going on. Details don’t matter.

Speaking of our home, as you know we moved into our new old home last summer, its beautiful, a dream home to me, but it can’t save a marriage and it means NOTHING, doesn’t even hold beauty hardly for me if we aren’t enjoying it as a family.  So the house is for sale. It just doesn’t even matter.  I never believed that a new house could make us happy (though excited and happy by it I admit) and I know as smart women you know and believe it too but let me just reiterate y’all:

    A house can’t make you happy.

Write it in cursive and pin it. There is nothing more true we must get into our decorating loving hearts. I would give it all up and live in a travel trailer if it could restore our family. I mean that (and not a cute airstream one with vintage decor, a nasty one). But my husband is ready to divorce. And the children and I are likely moving closer to their school and our support system. Please don’t mourn for me about the house.  It’s just a house. HOUSES DO NOT MATTER. But please do pray for my boys, and my mother and my in-laws and my husband. I know that slowly God will heal me and I will begin to see that the home can be more than just our nuclear family.  He will make beauty from ashes and give the boys and I a new sense of home and family. A “new normal” people call it.  My soul has screamed out at that idea but acceptance of a situation has to come. And a mama has to get back to work.  As many of you know it’s hard to be creative when you are hurting.  But the Lord and my clients have been gentle with me.  He truly is near the brokenhearted and crushed. And that is one reason I needed to write this post.  Because I need to get back to work.  Round Top is coming, Spring is coming,  projects need wrapping up. And it has seemed somewhat false to me to blog about the latest fabric at minted or ideas of a manly study, with this elephant in the room.  So truth and honesty.  And when you see me having a party or making something pretty please don’t judge.  It’s not easy to move on but it’s my talent and gift and what I need to do and what I want to do. I have to keep swimming. I hope to keep at Holly Mathis Interiors full time if possible.

So thank you to my friends and clients that have been supportive and encouraging on the hard days. Lots of love and grace. I haven’t been at my best and I own that and apologize for some business mistakes. But there has been grace. Bearing one another’s burdens has new meaning to me.  Do you know it truly physically feels better to tell others your hurt and pain and let them take some of the burden.  It feels a bit selfish sometimes but people who really love you want to do that. It’s empathy not sympathy. And the Bible tells us to do it.  My family and friends have been the hands and feet of Christ. Truly the Church.  (Even though going to church is hard right now, saving that for another post, they have been great too)  And God himself truly truly is close to the brokenhearted y’all.  He is. I want to leave you with this video from Brene Brown.  My friend Jill showed this too me I think the week before my world began to fall apart..So timely and so true. Hard things like this are sacred spaces. Thank you for not offering sandwiches.

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The Cottage Journal feature

I am so honored and thrilled one of my favorite e-projects was just featured in the Winter issue of The Cottage Journal.

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I know many of you enjoy that magazine and I was so happy when they inquired about Willow Wisp Cottage.  The homeowner Andrea’s style and look goes with their publication so well and it was a perfect fit!  Andrea is in CANADA and The Cottage Journal and I are both in the South…yet via the good ol’ internet we were able to work together AND get this published without any of us traveling.  It doesn’t hurt that Andrea is a great photographer and home enthusiast..She has such a good eye and ability to execute..all she needed was  a few sources and ideas and she was off and running!

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This was before

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And from the family room..the flow with the wainscot in the hallway is so nice!

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These lights over bar are placeholders..we had brass lights there but they are going to her new home..you can see the brass pendants in the photo below.

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We used oil rubbed bronze dark cup pulls and knobs on the outer cabinets and brass on the island hardware to tie back to the brass pendants.

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I love the good ol PB Bolton Lantern over the island…and that countertop on island..she had such amazing local craftsmen doing work like that..i love how their home has some stained woodwork and cozy feel but white cabinets too..such a great combo and it really illustrates how you can  have both..the little craftsmen cabinet doors at top ties it together i think! It’s like those pages in magazine where they say “what is different” well its the lights over the bar..both look good actually!  Which are your fave?

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I love her  coffee bar!

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And the counters…oh wow her counters.  Its Danby marble from Vermont  oh yes it is!

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Just at the contrast with the island top!

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View  into her family room..all we did was add the bird prints and slipcovers and a few fabrics…Andrea already had the rug.

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And her dining room…I had my signature buffalo check drapes sewn here in Texas and shipped to Andrea!

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She bought the table locally in Canada and the chairs are from Ballard…woohoo Ballard Designs for shipping to Canada!  The light is Pottery Barns anouk which i have used a lot like the Bolton they work well together!  This home is so pretty with so many great bones…the floors, the coffered ceilings the woodwork so it was a joy to work on and with Andrea..as you can see she is an awesome stylist and photographer…thank you for letting be involved Andrea!

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You can read all of the details about the renovation on Andrea’s blog here and here! In many ways the elements are simple and on trend (but classic I do believe), subway tile, white cabinets, marble mixed with wood counters and touches of brass, but each kitchen has its own soul and Andrea’s home certain has soul and warmth! And I think you can find the issue still on stands! Thank you again to The Cottage Journal!

Ivey Inspiration

I have to admit I don’t see a lot in the shelter magazine that I just love these days.  Boy I sound like an old fogey but hey I will be forty  *cough cough* in like six weeks so hey maybe it is an age issue.

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Everything just seems a little too bright and ikea and just lacks soul to me (and that is from someone who loves Ikea and color)…..BUT i must say this February Issue of Better Homes & Gardens has something I love (can we believe the February issue is out…i was just wrapping gifts) Anyway, WHERE have I been, I love Kathryn Ivey (and my friends and faves Milk & Honey Home are also in this issue..whoop to my Atlanta girls,  y’all rock, they have gotten so much press lately and they deserve it!)  So get this issue, it is actually worth buying.

These are all from pinterest or her website and show Ivey’s fresh but still collected and great look.

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The fact its a DC row house (talk about soul and charm) as a backdrop doesn’t hurt. I love the exposed brick and no mantle. And the hex tile in the entry..OMG i love that with the number!

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The hats remind me of what Becki and I did at Old Glory..and you know i love the rug! And the botanical chart with red in her kitchen..oh yes..you can see more of her kitchen on the Everygirl blog tour.

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In the article it says that Ivey and her family moved out of the row house right after this trip..so sad..except they moved to PARIS!  Such a good layout..of course the styling was by Jessica Thomas and images by THE Helen Norman so it had to be good..Good job BHG y’all check it out in print..it’s even better!

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