Birthdays, besties & Bigmama

I have needed to write this post for over a month but just hard to put into words. Its actually been nearly six weeks since I celebrated my birthday (as my mom pointed out while I have been writing thank you notes this weekend..hey I may be getting a divorce but I still write thank you notes..what better time actually!)

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I don’t want to gush and glorify divorce or myself and my friends or my party and make it all look perfect.  But God showed up at my birthday party just like he has shown up for me throughout this hard season.  So I do want to glorify him.  For the way He loves me directly and the way He loves me through my friends. Some of my friends are super busy, just like I am and I don’t want to go down that glorification of busy road but it’s true.  They have small kids and businesses, Maifest and Round Top prep was in full swing, and we don’t all live in the same town.  But on March 15th, they made time and come out and supported me.  And I didn’t know I was going to go around the circle and bawl and tell what each person meant to me but I did and I was a little nervous the next day about what I actually said, because I was drunk on love.  And I wish I had a recording of what some of them said.  Giving words and time are powerful y’all.

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{That’s right I threw my own party yes I did}

So there you go…I sent this invite out so I couldn’t cancel the little event…and I did want to cancel as it got closer to the day. Just seems a weird time to have a party but I didn’t want to be gloomy and sad on my 40th birthday so I took the plunge, sent the invites.  And if you are my friend and didn’t get an invite its because I thought you were too busy or too far or it’s been too long.  But know I thought about  you because I did.  My fear or insecurity held me back or lack of convenience (you live too far away) is all that kept me from inviting you. Believe that.

So Holly Kuhn is a client that has become a friend and she owns the Old Glory Antiques shop in Colorado and Burton, Texas.  You may remember her home was in Country Living in the fall. I posted about it here. Holly allowed a few of my friends and I that don’t live local (and some that do) to bunk there on birthday weekend. Her Burton house isn’t a functioning B&B, it was at one point for now it’s not, so I really appreciate you opening it for us Holly.  Truly you and Brian are the best!

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So Camille came early from Abilene and we spent the Saturday before my birthday just hanging out and getting provisions for the OG (wine and chocolate and chicken salad) and I thought it was good to be with just her that day before and rehash all that is going on and get all of my tears out. Because who wants to “ugly cry” at their birthday party, but it didn’t work.  I still ugly cried at the party..and its Okay.

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{Before we put scissors to my bangs}

So Sunday morning we went to church and ate cake pops for breakfast and had a slow day as guests trickled in..like Becki and Jenny and my mama. And then Camille cut my bangs, important girl stuff like that…It was so fun to see my longtime friend hit it off with my newer friends and my mama just soak it all up.  But I am not surprised at all that they bonded instantly.

I love these faces below. I wish I had a photo of everyone that came so glad we at least got these in the entryway of Old Glory.

{Me after we put scissors to my bangs, proof that a little snip can be as good as highlights}

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{Becki is so good at the selfie, and Jenny you drove from Shreveport and didn’t even go see your parents, that is love}

And then that evening we gathered at Royer’s Pie Haven because well it’s magical there…both the pies and atmosphere. Tara lit candles and had it even more special than usual.  I knew it would be the perfect place to just hang out and be with people I love and it was.  Of course I didn’t talk to each person as much as I wanted or get very many photos.  But that is okay.  It is etched in my mind and on my heart that I am loved. And friends matter. And I need to pour into my friendships more, water more. Do more than text. But also be grateful for the people you can text or email months between visits and it still be the same.  That is grace and real friendship.  To be able to pick up anywhere.

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So thank you Tara for opening your haven to me and for being a wonderful friend. And to everyone else both old friends and new that took time out of their lives and schedule to be with me.  It meant more than you know. I so so so wish we had gotten more pictures of the evening but I guess if its such a sweet time you forget photos that is a good thing.

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That being said, I just wish Bigmama’s book had released a little bit earlier so I could have given each person a copy.

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Just like Oprah!

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Because so much of what Melanie says in this book rings true for what my friends mean to me…really all of it! And its good to say it and remember it.

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There is no one cuter than you my friends.

No one more loyal, more wise, more creative, more kind. MORE FUNNY

Larry Hagman knows its true.

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Arnold knows it.  Even Mary & Edith agree;

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Lol. I love these popping up on social media Melanie and I love your words.

That’s all I got y’all. Water your faith. Water your marriage and family.  But water your friends too. They matter.

And thank you again to my friends for the gifts and words and love and tears and miles traveled. I love you.

THE NEST Project

I am going to start out the new year telling you about a fun project.  The Nest is a bed and breakfast project I worked on with my friends Jay and Sally White of Brenham, Texas. The Nest is 14X28 (392 sq’)  Each room is 14X14.  The structure is an old motor court that sits next to their charming home and garden in the countryside of Washington County just miles from Round Top!

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I got to know the Whites when Sally was my son’s third grade teacher.  She is an amazing teacher and we just fell in love with both of them.  Jay helped me with a tree project at our previous house and my recent boxwood acquisitions at our new old house (blog post forthcoming).  Jay’s day job is at Houston’s MD Anderson Cancer center but his passion is organic and heirloom gardening and he and Sally love collecting antiques and vintage. And not just your typical old stuff, they like funky stuff like lucite and weird art and art deco.  To sum it up, they are cool!  Going to their house is happy and fun just like they are…they have chickens, and the color red is everywhere and there are plants and bugs and the boys and I both love it!  So when they asked me to help with polishing up their little bed and breakfast venture I was thrilled to help!  Sally and Jay are so funny..they laugh a lot and are self depricating in the best way.  Jay and I were like two pre-teens at the mall shopping and giggling while working on this project and Sally is such a good sport putting up with our shennagins and excitement.

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This is the bedroom area of The Nest… with comfy and colorful bed!  Jay bought yards of this Ikea fabric a while back and we used  it on drapes and bedskirt. You know I had to throw in a red tolix chair (actually Jay painted it and Sally’s childhood desk). Jay did the art of their daughters… I love the style!  And the old letters and letterpress print . . . . I love that Jay and Sally let me do so many little funk gallery walls.

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I love the color in this room and that big fish!

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So many fun vintage toys and books..they had so much to work with and style.

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Check out the cool lighting and this mid century dining set! Yes those are my fave bamboo tortious shades from Selectblinds.com you can find them here.

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To find out more about booking The Nest visit here and to find out more about Jay’s work and garden blog visit here.

Photos by the talented Natalie Lacy Lange.  Natalie blog at The Shady Acre.

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